Baby Stella turned four weeks old today, so sadly my chance to relay these facts with a fresh memory has passed. But, these past four weeks have been busy, to say the least.
On Tuesday August 7th, I went for a follow-up visit to my OB. I knew that she’d be pushing me to schedule an induction, as it had already been brought up a week earlier. I was trying my best to avoid the pitocin and a scheduled birth, but I knew that I’d put up all the fight that I had in me. They did a quick assessment of the baby (including using a stimulator to wake her up inside me) while a nurse booked my appointment. She came back and handed me a slip of paper with a number to call to confirm my induction for that Wednesday at midnight.
I proceeded to walk, climb stairs, do laundry, eat spicy food, and have S. give me foot rubs in hopes of labor inducing magic. But no go. S. and I went to one of our fav little restaurants for burgers so that I could eat a big meal before I wasn’t allowed to eat. As we took the check our server told us to “have fun tonight”. If only he knew. We went home to nap. Unable to sleep, I played Words With Friends and checked on the Olympic results, knowing I was going to miss the US airings. Midnight came and it was finally time.
I got checked in, put on a gown and tried to relax. The hospital had little nature videos to listen to while you tried to rest, so i put them on and slept. My doula sat in the rocker while S, paced the floor. He was feeling sick, covering himself in the yoga blanket I’d packed. He blamed it on the bacon and egg burger he’d had earlier, but didn’t seem to realize that it must have been his nerves, the immensity of the situation that wasn’t sitting well. At 2am they started my pitocin drip and I dozed on and off, checking the clock as they increased my doses hourly. Come morning I walked the halls eating grape popsicles, S. pushing my IV pole. I felt great. One doctor commented that I looked too happy to be in labor.
That’s because I wasn’t. Not until much later. Sometime after noon, in the midst of my dad trying to visit and doctors coming to give me a spiel about our daughters Tetralogy labor kicked in. I was in the bed, feeling a bit sickly, and I asked S. to climb in with me. He did, but a moment later I had to get up. I had a terrible need to go to the bathroom, so I wheeled my pole in and squatted, but nothing seemed to help. I went back into the room and as I was washing my hands I felt a terrible pressure, causing me to lean against the sink. I was hunched down when I saw a splatter of water across my gold flip-flops. “So that’s what it’s like to have your water break”, I thought. That’s when it kicked off. There would be no more walking, no more popsicles. I couldn’t sit, stand or lie down. I tried sitting on the ball. Rocking in a chair. There was no start or stop to the contractions–just a pressure that if I was forced to describe would be a combination of having to make the largest bowl movement of your life while someone shot you in the intestines.
I attempted natural labor for a while longer (how long exactly is unclear to me now) but it was terrible. I asked the nurse for an epidural. She suggested they check to see how far dilated I was, so I complied, but told myself that unless I was 9 cm or more, I wanted the epidural. The exam revealed me to be 6 cm, just 2 cm more than I’d walked in at, (and had been for several weeks). I flatly asked for the epidural. I sat quivering at the edge of my bed, leaning into a nursing student, trying to stay still through a contraction as they did the spinal. A few moments later, I was back in bed, asleep.
I don’t remember much more, except that a nurse came in and woke me, asking if I felt like pushing. Yes. Yes, I did. I rolled onto my back and began the process of bearing down a bit, just lightly still because there were no doctors or anyone coaching me at that point. Sometime later, I began to shake. My legs, my body, feeling a combination of fatigue and endorphins. My doula leaned down toward me, “Do you know what this means” she whispered. “You’re transitioning.” I’d read about this, just enough to know that this meant she’d be here soon.
An intern performed perineal massage while I worked out a breathing rhythm with my team. Doula on my left, S. on the right, they held my legs, helping me to push to the count of ten, three times, over and over. My yoga experience with focused breathing kicked in. I thought back to my days in roller derby when my mantra was, “you can do anything for five minutes”, ten minutes…however many minutes this would take. Each time I pushed, I grabbed the undersides of my thighs and pushed like it was the last push. I was in a haze when I noticed that S. was putting on blue surgical scrubs, and I knew we were close. I was wheeled into the OR where a NICU and cardio team was waiting for Stella. I continued my pushing, trying to feel around for the hair that everyone was saying was appearing. I could feel her moving downwards, a two steps forward, one step back dance with this little being descending through my pelvis. When I could finally feel the hair, I exclaimed, “It’s like a puppy!” Any moment now, I was sure. Three more pushes. Three more pushes. Then someone asked me for a fourth push, and I knew this was it. I felt the slippery release of pressure and exhaled. She was here.
I saw her little gray form as she was swooped into the exam area, S. following the docs. The doula and I were in awe. I smiled through embarrassingly loud cries of joy. Placenta passed and I was just listening for her tiny cries as they filled the air. Moments later, they brought her to me and I saw the dewy eyes that I immediately recognized as being like my husband’s. I don’t remember what I said to her, but I’ll never forget the way she looked toward my face, recognizing the sound of my voice near her ear.
I tried to ignore the cardiologist that had to come take her away a few minutes later, (I don’t envy the intern that has to take the newborn cub from the lioness) handed her over knowing that S. could go up to NICU with her. I was taken back to my room, made my phone calls to annouce her arrival, ordered some room service, and waited while the epidural wore off so that I could go see her. It was about 2 hours later when S. came back for me and wheeled me to her. We took turns snuggling her to our chests, taking in the details of her tiny face, noticing her tiny fingernails and thin lips. I recognized the tiny hands with the thick palms, the button nose. She was finally here.